Saturday, 6 June 2020

Twitter: Who to Follow and How to gain Followers

The Social Media Advocate brings you another podcast about Twitter. In this episode, we look at who to follow and gain followers on Twitter.

Twitter - Your bio is important

Twitter is a very powerful social media tool and one thing that most people will look at first is your bio.

It is important that you have a description of yourself or business that will encourage people to follow you.

This is the first episode of my podcast, The Social Media Advocate and I hope you enjoy listening to it.

Tuesday, 12 May 2020

It’s All About You - No it’s Not

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Look after number one

Buy this because you’re worth it

You are the best

There is a trend amongst humankind, and the opening phrases in this post will indicate that it is a trend of selfishness. The ‘me first’ attitude is prevalent and is displayed in everyday life, perhaps more so when from behind the steering wheel of a car!

Although this selfishness is promoted as a way to bring happiness and benefit oneself, the reality is far different. Whilst getting ahead of the game, being first in the queue, getting in front of the car ahead might be appealing, the brief burst of joy is simply an adrenaline rush. It has no real benefit to the person or the human race.

What makes people happy? 

If you consider what makes people really happy you will see that it involves considering others. Those who volunteer and give their time in the service of others will agree with this. As the ‘good book’ says, “There is more happiness in giving than in receiving.” 

There is something built into each of us that when we tap into this brings us pleasure and deeper satisfaction and that is giving. Not just giving in a financial way, but giving of ourselves. Our time, energy and love are amongst the greatest  gifts we can give, and are not only more appreciated by the recipients but develop in the giver a better feeling. They also too are noticed by others and a good example set for them to follow.

Compare this to the ‘look after number one’ lifestyle. These people give nothing to others or society unless they are doing something for purely selfish motives, “I will do this if ..... “. Their attitude is often the cause of road accidents resulting in damage, injury and death, What a waste of life that is! You could change ‘look after number one’ to ‘how be a lonely old fool’.

There has been a great deal of research into comparing those who practice selfishness and those who are generous with their time and assets. Here are 4 key areas that I would like to share with you.


Helping others can give us self-esteem by having a role in society beyond just what we have to do in daily life. For some types of occupations, for example carers, this can already be a valuable benefit in addition to that in other areas of life. My experience tells me that people who are carers are more likely to be caring outside of their professional role, it’s part of their personality.

Many of us though have jobs that don’t have that kind of direct benefit to others. Doing something outside of work that can have an impact on someone in a similar way can help us see that we have more value than pushing buttons on a machine all day. We can do this through volunteering our time in the service of others.

Mental Health

Research shows that volunteers are less likely to suffer from depression, this of course would tie in with self-esteem and seeing in ourselves a value. Rather than sit around and feeling down, doing something for others can keep our minds occupied in a meaningful way.

It has been shown that those coping with grief can be helped by engaging in activities that help others. The actions of giving their time and energies has helped many to overcome their grief much sooner than those who don’t.

Physical Health

If we have good metal health this can lead to better physical health. Depression and other mental health issues can increase the risk of heart attacks. Those who are depressed will often reduce their physical movement too adding to the problems they have. Of course, if our volunteering means we get out more this can mean we engage in physical activity as part of the help we give.

Apparently in one study, middle-aged volunteers appear to have less belly fat, better cholesterol levels and lower blood sugar, compared with non-volunteers. That sounds better than a weekly trip to the slimming club!

Longer Life

By staying in better shape through helping others we can expect to live a longer life. Have you noticed that army of older volunteers in your community? They have a sense of purpose and also a network of friends which can help prevent loneliness.

There are many more reasons why a generous lifestyle is better for us then a selfish one and maybe one day I will cover these in another post. In the meantime, please let me know what you think by leaving a comment in the box below. 

Monday, 4 May 2020

How? - Why is it a Good Question?

I KEEP six honest serving-men
 (They taught me all I knew);
Their names are What and Why and When 
 And How and Where and Who. 

Rudyard Kipling

Questions need answers and the how is often an overlooked question.
These verses by Kipling are well known. He used them to help him write. When answering these questions, he would know if his stories made sense to the reader. For any writer or speaker adopting the method of asking these questions will help you sensibly put across your story. 

For me, these questions can also become useful in our daily lives. The question beginning with 'why' produces reasons. Why should I do this? Why will that help me? Having a reason to do something can be helpful and indeed crucial in life. The reason for action will be part of our motivation for accomplishing a task or project. 

I have noticed that some become too interested in the 'why' and fail to ask or focus on 'how'. Let me illustrate that with the following questions. 


Let's ask the question. Why should I be kind? Of course, this will produce some good reasons for why we should. However, the vital question that we will need the answer to is, How can I be kind? It is ultimately the 'how' that will provide us with the knowledge and methods to succeed. 

Another example would be to ask someone who has lost weight why instead of how. Should we ask 'why', it would produce reasons personal to them and might not apply to ourselves. On the other hand, if we ask how they lost weight, that is something that we might be able to replicate and become healthier too. 

Quite some time ago, a multi-millionaire said that people often asked him, why did he become so wealthy. He made it very clear that what they should have asked is, "How did you become wealthy?" Asking why would not benefit the questioners but for sure the "how' certainly would. 

From these examples alone, I hope that you can see the value in asking how more often that why. We will learn much more when we ask how and listen to the answers.

I would love to hear from you, so please do a leave a comment below.

Tuesday, 28 April 2020

It’s Good to Walk

Walking is a good for us and an easy form of exercise to take part in.
Many countries, including the United Kingdom, have been in lockdown due to the Coronavirus. Many people have therefore lost the ability to get out and about and engage in keep fit activity and sports.

The U.K Government has allowed its citizens the opportunity to get outside for a period of exercise each day as well as essential reasons. Exercise is defined by the government as a walk, run or cycle ride. This can either be on your own or with those you live with. Areas in parks with exercise equipment have been closed to prevent close contact and the virus being spread on the apparatus. 

Not one for running, I have been trying to get in a brisk daily walk. I downloaded the app Active 10, which is free and very useful. The app is simple to use and works all the time in the background. It measures each day how many minutes you are walking and divides this into brisk and slower walking. You can set a daily goal in 10-minute increments, and for each 10 minute period that you achieve, you are awarded a virtual trophy. The app never has to be started or stopped as it is always on, so you won’t forget to activate it. Merely taking your phone with you is all you have to remember.

Walking is an incredibly useful form of exercise, particularly brisk walking, often described as walking fast enough to still be able to talk but not able to sing. There has been a lot of research done on the benefits of walking and unlike running is unlikely to cause problems with your knees and other joints being damaged by the pounding on pavements. It is also suitable for all ages and the majority of people even with health issues if done correctly. 

Walking - FREE Exercise

Walking is not oly good for children but should form an important part of their daily routine.
Walking is free for all exercise and can be more easily incorporated into our daily routine. Maybe we can walk to work or part way, take a lunchtime walk, to the shops and other places rather than use the car. It seems far too many children arrive at the school gate in large vehicles, not only depriving them of needed exercise but also polluting our atmosphere and creating traffic chaos in the school vicinity. Many of the children live within walking range and if not perhaps parking a little further away from the school and walking might be an option. This will increase the amount of walking both parent and child do.

All walking is good for us, but a brisk walk will significantly improve our cardiovascular system and help reduce the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Walking keeps us supple and helps build muscle to keep us moving in the future. Even a few days without walking will see us start to stiffen up and find movement more difficult. This is even more problematic as we get older.

Walking is also beneficial for our mental health. The exercise helps our brains to repair. There is also the benefit of getting a different view and if we are near the countryside enjoying more of nature. However, even in towns, there are gardens, trees, parks and other areas that we can enjoy seeing plants, birds and animals.

Apart from sensible footwear and appropriate clothing for the weather, walking does not require any special equipment. This is unless you wish to become more adventurous and take up hiking in more extreme areas and weather conditions. 

I know that I am looking forward to my daily walk. Although it is always starting from home and with a limited area to walk in, I do enjoy it. It is amazing though how many different routes I can take and just reversing the direction does make a difference to what I see. I am fortunate that on the housing development where I live, there is a brook with a walk alongside it, some open spaces plus nearby fields and a pond. Also, there are birds with their beautiful songs and squirrels getting up their antics. Sometimes we just need to open our eyes and ears more than perhaps we used to before the lockdown was introduced. 

How are you doing in this coronavirus lockdown? Please leave a comment in the box below. 

Sunday, 15 March 2020

Corona Virus Panic and Reality

As I write this post, Britain is about to step up measures to reduce the impact and spread of the Covid-19 virus, the official name of the Corona Virus. There is no doubt that this is a very nasty virus which kills, and we all need to take precautions.

Sadly though, we see those bad elements in human nature displayed in the panic buying of goods in quantities well beyond the need of the individual. For some strange reason, toilet paper appears to be a priority. This virus does not increase the number of times that you will need to go to the toilet or even blow your nose! I am at a loss therefore, as to why there has been such a huge surge in people buying the stuff! As they say in Yorkshire, "There's nowt so queer as folks!"

The daily life in countries around the world is going to change significantly for a while whilst this virus has its run. How are you coping? Please post a comment in the box below.

Monday, 9 March 2020

Let's Connect

I operate a number of social media accounts and if you would like to follow me on them, please do, you will be most welcome.

Twitter @RolandMillward one of my favourite and first social media account. I try and share things that followers will find interesting!

Twitter @WTFCSupporter Providing updates and information about Warminster Town Football Club.

Instagram - I share the places I visit and my vinyl record collection.

Periscope.TV/rolandmillward & Persicope.TV/wtfcsupporter The latter account is where I livestream Warminster Town Football Club live matches and also the place you can watch the replays.